The strict parent your brain never had


I once spent £300 on an Iron Man figure because I "earned it."

This was my productivity reward system. Hit a revenue milestone, buy a collectible. Complete a major project, add to the collection.

Sounds smart, right? Gamify your work. Create incentives. Make the grind feel like a game.

Here's what actually happened:

Month 1: Hit the milestone, bought the figure, felt genuinely motivated.
Month 2: Missed the milestone, bought the figure anyway "for future motivation."
Month 3: Tight month financially — felt guilty about the expensive hobby.
Month 4: Stopped tracking milestones entirely because the pressure was making work less enjoyable.

The reward system failed because I was the gatekeeper, the judge, and the beneficiary. There were no real rules when I didn't feel like following them.

Self-assigned rewards don't work because we're terrible at being strict with ourselves.

Here's what does work: automated rewards you can't cheat.

When my email list hits a new subscriber milestone, a Zap automatically orders a book from my wishlist. When I publish a set number of posts, it schedules a rest day in my calendar — blocked, no meetings, no catch-up.

The system decides. Not my impulses, not my mood that particular Tuesday, not some rationalised version of "I sort of hit the target."

Your brain will always find reasons why you "deserve" the reward early. Or why you "don't really need it" this time because you're on a roll and shouldn't break the momentum.

Remove your emotions from the equation. Let the automation be the strict parent you never had.

(And yes, I still have the Iron Man figure. He judges me from his shelf. Deservedly.)

— Andrew

P.S. If you want the actual workflow behind automated rewards — the triggers, the integrations, the wishlist trick — the Automation Wizard tool kit is where I keep the practical stuff.

Andrew Molloy

Automation Wizard/Soloneer - Exploring how we can use the latest technologies such as AI, automation tools like n8n, and 3D printing to make our lives easier and better.

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